“If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.”
~ Nora Roberts
As a life coach I ask a lot of questions. It’s what I do. In fact, it is part of the magic behind why coaching works. When I ask a client a question, it opens the door for them to explore. It opens the door to the possibility that a thought or a dream could actually become a reality. Powerful. Inquiry and the ability to ask for a sale, or a promotion, or a specific thing that we may want, can generate positive energy both internally and externally. Yet, often, the biggest fear we have in regard to asking for what we want is rooted in the meaning behind one two letter, one syllable word. “NO!” If “no” was not an answer, what questions would you then be asking?
Once uttered, our questions stimulate our minds, map out our directions, and move us closer to our own solutions. Asking is free of charge. No special training is involved. Just begin exactly where you are. Here are my top twenty reasons why for best results…you need to just ask!
It is always a win because you have nothing to lose by asking. Not asking is a no.
Communication, conversation, and overall interaction are jump-started.
Learning is a lifelong event. Asking is a pathway to learning.
Asking is an action step. It creates doing and moves you closer to your goals.
Posing questions of others sets our intentions in motion.
Posing questions of ourselves sets our minds in motion.
You have to play to win. Asking is like rolling the dice.
Reduces confusion and sparks understanding.
You don’t get what you don’t ask for.
Asking eliminates excuses replacing them with fresh perspectives.
Fine-tunes your focus so that you do not miss what is important to you.
Eliminates assumptions replacing them with genuine answers.
Asking is a catalyst to change and living in the now.
Generates closure, which manifests a pivot toward or away from something.
Builds rapport and stimulates friendships.
Permits us to hear our goals and concerns out loud.
Creates human connection.
Takes us out of our comfort zones changing our internal conversations & results.