One of the most complex concepts to navigate in life is when and how to make changes. You know what you should do, instinct kicks in, you may even take the first step, and then BOOM you freeze in place. Deciding what to do next introduces conflict between the known entities in your life and the perceived unknowns. Wedged in between known and unknown is a little thing called FEAR.
So how do you master making changes that stick? What can you do to circumvent fear? How can you create awareness and new habits that meet you where you are right now and yet pave the way toward tomorrow?
The answer is to be legendary!
Become legendary in the moment.
Become aligned instead of balanced.
Become aware of possibilities and opportunities.
Become the person that takes mindful action and pivots by choice.
Become empowered by those choices and your ability to live them!
What can you do NOW?
Remember that YOU lead YOU. No one else has that power. Creating solid and consistent habits in regard to the success you seek and the choices that empower and drive them, are at the foundation of self-leadership. It is not enough to simply set an intention, every intention has to have commitments that honor it, and those commitments need to be inspiring and addictive in nature.
Cheat on fear: Fear is a constant; you are never really fearless, so being able to fear LESS is the goal! The best way to do that is to keep company with your successes! Having an affair with accomplishment diminishes your relationship with fear and essentially leaves it powerless. Document your wins, then lean into them…where can you do more of that? Fall in love with success.
Pick what’s known: If you consistently do what you have always done, your results will never change. For some things in life this forms an absolute slam-dunk, a place to call home, and a solid foundation. I speak a lot about what you can do differently, but in order to pivot you need to be clear about what in your life needs to be a consistent. Define the essentials that stay the same, and then seek out the changes. Being mindful about what stays and what goes at any specific time is a departure point for smoother transitions and action steps that come from heartfelt and head driven decisions rather than ad hoc random choices.
Take Your Power Back: Meet every 168 hours! Every week you have the same time allotment, how you use it is unique to you. Just like you make a doctor’s appointment or schedule a work meeting, schedule meetings with yourself; blocks of time that circle back to the tasks involved in goal-getting. Every week identify the steps you will take, calendar them in, and block them out. Send the emails, write the texts, hire the babysitter, RSVP the event, schedule the coach. In other words, meet others where you are willing to meet yourself..
Be curious: This is the greatest tool of all, and everyone has the ability to harness it. When you are curious you are connected and focused on the world around you. As a result, you stay in the moment much more, engaged with others, with heightened energy and abundance. Curiosity is one of the biggest diffusers of fear because it is extremely difficult to be curious and fearful at the same time. One cancels the other out!
Lead YOU: Every choice and decision you make, or you do not make, begins with self-leadership and that is a life-long initiative. You are the single longest relationship that you will every encounter, so start at any time and be the CEO of your life. It matters little how you led yesterday or what you anticipate will lead you tomorrow. The place to focus your attention is on what you can do TODAY. Show up consistently in this brand of YOU. The choices you make directly impact the changes you derive. You are the source of this
Be still and know: Sometimes the greatest aha moments come not when you are mega productive and overstretched, but rather when you allow for a pause and a time to reflect and create. In a world that is constantly ON, turning OFF to reboot is an essential element in self-care as well as in self-awareness. Build stillness into your week on purpose. Take the nap, go for the hike, read the book, meditate. Make sure that you listen to your life in these moments. How do you feel? What interests you most?
Simplify today: Simply put, break up with what no longer fits! You may be hanging onto aspects of your life that do not make you happy, or that feel like they are not in alignment with a moment-centric version of yourself. Do a quick review of your New Year’s resolutions or current goals. Make sure that you have fine-tuned them to most effectively describe the net net of what you want in a streamlined and simplistic way. Look for goals that do not belong to you, but rather belong to a boss or significant other, or those that have been dragged from one year and decade into the next. In order for you to get traction and action on these dreams they need to have real, rich, in the moment meaning for YOU. Merge what overlaps and control your choices in regard to contracting lists and plans for maximum return. In order to launch change needs to be recognizable and desired.